The World Through My Eyes

The World Through My Eyes: A collection of essays, reflections and thoughts about men, sex, love, relationships, politics, friendships, nudism, current events, social concerns, humanitarian issues, religion and all those wonderful experiences that constitute life as seen and felt by me: a thirty-something Deaf Gay man of mixed racial heritage (half-black, half-white) living in the Virginia Beach area of the United States. A scrapbook of my life. I've been a confirmed Gay nudist for the past 20 years (since puberty). Sometimes, we just need to step back and chill and try not to be so serious and tense. Life is short, stand up and get into it!

Saturday, February 25, 2012

No Razors, Please

Sorry, but I don't mean to offend anyone reading this. This is strictly my own personal opinion and not a judgment. I am just not attracted to any man who shaves his armpit, chest or pubic hairs. To me, it simply looks too fake, too unnatural, too unreal. In my mind, part of the process of becoming a man is to undergo puberty. This means the growth of armpit and pubic hair in most men. The appearance of chest hair is determined by heredity and is not universal. It doesn't matter how muscular or built the guy is; the man just ain't a man if there's no naturally growing hair where it should be. Like I said, that's me being me.

I know some men like the smooth look. I know some men think it makes them look neat and sexy. I know that some men shave their pubic hair because they think it makes their dick seem bigger than what it really is. I respect their decision to shave their bodies, totally or partially. It's not attractive or sexy for me.

I'm a man who has sex with men: I'm gay. When I want sex with another man, I prefer being with a man who actually looks like a man and not a prepubescent child. I want my man to have hair where it should be: at the very least, in his armpits and pubic areas. Part of the pleasure of having sex with another man is getting that stray pubic hair inside my mouth or nose. That reminds me that I'm being sexed by another man. It comes with the turf.

It doesn't make any difference to me as to the amount of body hair a man has. As long as it's natural and not artificial. It can be thick and bushy or sparse and thin: no matter. What's important is just be the man that you really are. If a man has a naturally smooth chest, that's cool. But please don't shave the chest hairs to try to impress me, because it won't work. Leave all your body hair intact. It makes you look like a man should look: manly. That's what counts in my book. A man who's a man.  

To me, a man with shaved pubes looks a little strange, somewhat off-balance. I mean, we all know what's supposed to be there. Without pubic hair, it appears ugly and missing something. As for the illusion that by shaving the pubic hairs the actual penis appears larger, we all know that one. Therefore, the illusion evaporates as we're aware as to the reason for shaving. It defeats the purpose altogether. And then there's the stubble issue. I don't like getting stubble-burn from sucking cock.

The race of the shaved man doesn't matter, either. Shaved is shaved regardless of the color of the skin. What isn't attractive on one man isn't automatically appealing on another based on pigmentation. What's true for one is generally true for all, at least, to me.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Blast From Our Black Gay Past: Porn Stars III

Obviously, it's not a porn magazine by today's standards, but back when it was published, January, 1949, it was as close to porn as you could legally buy. The cover model is Melvin Wells, Mr. Muscle 1949.  And if you're really into pumped and maxi-muscled men, this model looked fine then and even by today's standards. Inside the cover is the nude picture of Mr. Wells, Mr. Muscle. Evidently from his pictures, it was the size of Melvin Wells' muscles and not his dick that gay men found appealing.


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Blast From Our Black Gay Past: Porn Stars II

This photograph gallery is from way back in the day. The model pictured here was professionally known as Bob Brown. That's all the information available on him. At first, I thought his name was Alexander but I later learned this was the name of the photographer. These photos date from the middle-to-late 1960s, all before the Stonewall Riots of June 27-28, 1969.

It's obvious as to why this model was featured in so many magazines of this period. The size of his penis make him desirable to most white subscribers. This was the period in time before the birth of exclusive men's porn periodicals. During this era, they were known as fitness magazines.

Bob Brown, as he was known, was very much fit! In many different ways! From the medal on his chest, he's a champion. Also, very unusual for the time, he's shown with his natural chest hair. Most black models were shaved or naturally hairless chests. Of course, models weren't allowed to be pictured with an erection during this period.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Valentine's Day, 2012


Celebrate the date with friends and lovers! This is one box of chocolate delight that few will be able or even want to turn away!

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

Blast From Our Black Gay Past: Porn Stars I

Just as I did last year, during Black History Month, I'm featuring African-American gay porn stars in my blog. These brave men faced the stigma of their own community as openly living gay lives as well as the discrimination of the largely White controlled gay porn industry. In the early days after the Stonewall Riots up until the emergence of the African-American porn industry in the early 2000s, Black porn actors, with the exception of those with massive cocks, for the most part were ignored by the mainstream gay porn producers.

Featured here is the actor/model known as DeShawn as he appeared in the February, 1998 issue of  Inches Magazine. DeShawn was able to also secure a role in several porn movies for different studios. Not surprisingly, there is very little personal information available today about this actor/model.

Sunday, February 5, 2012

National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day

National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day is observed annually on February 7, during Black History Month. This year, 2012, is the twelfth consecutive year of recognizing this event. National Black HIV/AIDS Awareness Day (NBHAAD) is a national HIV yesting and treatment community mobilization initiative targeting African-Americans in the USA and all Black people of the African Diaspora. This awareness commemoration focuses on four distinct and specific areas: education, testing, involvement and treatment.

NBHAAD is an opportunity for the the African-American community to outreach among itself in order to heighten efforts aimed at treatment for those who are living with HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, and to share education and individual prevention skills in order to stem the tide of infection within our communities. The 2012 NBHAAD theme is: I Am My Brother/Sister's Keeper: Fight HIV/AIDS!

NBHAAD represents a chance for all people, no matter what their race and ethnicity, to pause, remember and renew their commitment to ending this dreadful disease in all communities and neighborhoods throughout the USA and the world. It is a message that needs to be repeated in order to preserve our future. Our love for our brothers and ourselves is the reason for our resolve to become educated, involved and tested.

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Black History Month

Black men wrapped in Kente cloths of various designs

February, 2012, in the United States it is the month that honors the heritage of all African-Americans. Most people call it Black History Month. Originally, it was a time of year for persons of African descent to explore and observe their history. Over the years, it became a period for all Americans, no matter what race, to explore and observe Black American culture and history.

African teens cavorting on a beach

There are many who speculate and theorize that humanity has its' origins from the continent of Africa. There exists some science that supports this belief. Obviously, this makes some people very uncomfortable. Regardless, it is accepted fact that Africans and African-Americans, Black people, have made significant contributions towards the advancement and betterment of the human race. It is fitting that we do take the time to celebrate and honor these achievements to our culture.

As a gay man of African descent, I am proud of my heritage as a son of the Yoruba Tribe, most of whom live in what is now the country of Nigeria. My mother was born in the city of Ibadan located in western Nigeria. I have extended family who currently reside in that ancient center of Yoruba culture. I have visited there many times. As a mixed-race man, I embrace and own equally both my Greek and Nigerian roots, confident that the combination of African and European have made me the man that I am. As a same gender loving nudist, I am grateful for the legacy of nudity that both cultures have bestowed on me.

Adinkra symbol: Sankofa
The Sankofa is an Adinkra symbol that comes to us from the Akan Tribe of Ghana and the Ivory Coast. Adinkra symbols are visual representations of traditional proverbs.  The Sankofa symbolizes a bird of paradise looking behind itself. It means "learning from the past" or "it is not too late to go back and retrieve it if you forget." It suggests that we all must learn from the past, our ancestors, in order to prepare for the future. I feel this is exactly why we have Black History Month. In helps us all, regardless of race, to discover where we've been so that we can decide in what direction to proceed.