The World Through My Eyes

The World Through My Eyes: A collection of essays, reflections and thoughts about men, sex, love, relationships, politics, friendships, nudism, current events, social concerns, humanitarian issues, religion and all those wonderful experiences that constitute life as seen and felt by me: a thirty-something Deaf Gay man of mixed racial heritage (half-black, half-white) living in the Virginia Beach area of the United States. A scrapbook of my life. I've been a confirmed Gay nudist for the past 20 years (since puberty). Sometimes, we just need to step back and chill and try not to be so serious and tense. Life is short, stand up and get into it!

Thursday, December 30, 2010

Best Wishes For A Safe And Successful 2011!

As we begin to salute (in our own respective ways) 2010 and to welcome 2011, I wish to each one of you all my best! May the new year be one of happiness and prosperity for us all. Thank you for visiting here during 2010 and I hope that you return often in 2011. Your feedback on this blog is important so please leave a comment or send an email: Negative or positive, I'd like to know your thoughts.

If you're out and about to celebrate the arrival of the new year or the final days of Kwanzaa, if you indulge (regardless of your substance of choice), please don't drive. If there's even a remote possibility that you might INdulge, be prepared and have a latex condom and water-based lubricant available. Be safe so that you may enjoy all of 2011 and beyond.

Happy New Year!

Pictured here is Trap Boyy, one of my favorite actors. He is the ultimate bottom and his ass can fuck a cock like there's no tomorrow! Birds of a feather? Plus, he's downright sexy as hell!

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Ho! Ho! Ho!

Season's Greetings to all of you! Best wishes for a safe and happy New Year! I'm off for the holidays and will return in 2011! Be safe! Thank all of you for your support!

Tuesday, December 21, 2010

Stocking Stuffers!

A great gift idea to show your friends and loved one(s) that you really do care about them! Condoms and/or water-based lubricants fit easily into any size stocking or holiday coffee mug and serve as a reminder to those important men in your life to "Ho-Ho-Ho" safe! Every time, even during this festive season! It's truly a gift of both life and love! What better way to keep the yuletime merry? Play safe! Be safe!

Friday, December 17, 2010

Holiday Outreach

For most of us, this is a very festive and happy time of year. We look forward to having time with both family and friends and sharing old memories and creating new ones. We're busy shopping, preparing for parties and visiting loved ones and enjoying the spirit of the season. There just doesn't seem to be enough time to accomplish all that we plan.

Yet, there are some of us who aren't in the spirit nor enjoying the holidays. Some are lonely and have no one to spend time sharing the moments. Others may have just recently lost a close loved one/partner and, once again, are lonely or unable to re-enter a social life without their late partner. Then there are the elderly, many who have outlived their family and friends. Some have been estranged from their biological families since initially coming out to them or were forced to leave the family once the family discovered they were gay.

We are all aware of the statistics regarding depression suffered by some during the holidays. Many of us may have observed the symptoms of withdrawal and mood swings of others or have experienced them firsthand. Then, there is the sad reality of an increase in suicides, especially this time of year. Most of these individuals lack the resources and support systems to help them cope and survive the season.

My partner and I always make it a point to invite those we know that would otherwise be alone to our social gatherings  that we host. It is our way of reaching out to those within our community and present them the opportunity to socialize and to meet new people. A chance for them to practice those often underused social skills and to enter into a festive environment.

It doesn't take any extra effort to try to make a difference in the lives of others. However, you might be surprised at the difference that doing so makes in yours.

Friday, December 10, 2010

Live Christmas Tree

It's the holiday season and all and everyone is doing the traditions that have been done over and over. I thought this might be a little something different for a change. This busy trio have created their own live Christmas tree. But you know, I think it needs a name change, maybe Sexmas tree? What do you think? It does seem to add something missing from the season. And the best part is, it has all the essentials for a joyous time. No decorations required. This simplifies the household tasks at this time of year.

The Sexmas tree also is beneficial for the environment. No actual trees are used, thereby preserving our natural resources. It's completely reusable any time of the year as long as you have friends willing to participate in yuletide escapades. Another nice aspect of the Sexmas tree is that it's bound to deliver hours of cheerful pleasure every time it's revisited, regardless of the time of year. The holiday spirit just keeps on cumming all year long.

Before you think I've totally lost my mind, my boyfriend has been away for the past three days and nights at a professional conference. I guess by now you've figured out exactly what I've been missing. Rest assured, I know what I'll be getting once he returns home tonight!

Be safe and enjoy your weekend. I know I will! Seasons Greetings!

Monday, December 6, 2010

St. Nicholas Day

In the Eastern Orthodox tradition, today is the Feast of St. Nicholas the Wonderworker. St. Nicholas lived during the reign of St. Constantine the Great and died in 330 A.D. He was the Bishop Of Myra in Asia Minor and was known throughout the Byzantine Empire for his generosity and abundant mercy. He was always giving to the poor and needy. From his practice of charity is where our exchange of gifts during the holiday season began.

He is the patron saint of all travellers, especially sea-farers. He is one of the best known and popular of saints.

Today, my students and I are delivering boxes of toys to our local Toys-For-Tots collection warehouse. This date was decided months ago by our school administration. I'm certain they weren't aware of the significance of this day. Or, were they? Divine intervention, perhaps? Happy St. Nicholas Day!

Friday, December 3, 2010

We Decide What Words Hurt

As in all aspects of our own lives, we determine the words, the labels, the epitaphs, the slanders or the identities that harm us. The term or phrase that causes us to feel humiliation and guilt for being us. The real person that we are. Our essence, our being, ourselves. To own and to accept those pejoratives, those negatives, those stereotypes is power!! This empowerment produces pride in both who and what I am as a person and as a man who has sex with men.

The names that are hurled upon me with the intention of causing inferiority and shame no longer bother me nor longer bring discomfort to me. You don't have that control  and determination over my existence here on this Earth. You are weak in your insecurity and I am strong in my identity. I realize exactly who and what I am and I don't need you to acknowledge nor affirm that reality. I know me. You don't. Your doubt and self-hatred isn't my problem.

I'm gay. I'm a sissy. I'm a faggot. I'm queer. I suck cock. I fuck when I have to and get fucked when I choose to. I have sex with men. I'm same gender loving. I have a limp wrist when I want to and a fist when I need to. If required, all I need to do is to kick you in your balls, next your face and then walk away. Your fake macho-pride handles the rest. Any fairy can fly away, homie!

Spit what you must! Sling and shout what you think is true. Remember, I can live with your deficiencies in your manhood. You can't survive my strengths in mine!

Wednesday, December 1, 2010

December 1: World AIDS Day

Today, December 1, 2010, marks the twenty-second observance of World AIDS Day. It is a day to wear a red ribbon and reach out to at least one other person and talk to them about the facts concerning HIV/AIDS. It is a day to remind the rest of our society that this disease is preventable. It is a day to reinforce the fact that it isn't who we are, but what we do that puts us at risk of HIV infection. It is a day to build bridges and eliminate barriers.

Wear a red ribbon. Show the world that you are aware and that you care.